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Avoidant Attachment and Dating: A Guide to Navigating Relationship Challenges

Navigating the dating scene with a dismissive-avoidant attachment strategy can sometimes feel like traversing a labyrinth. This attachment strategy often stems from an early upbringing where emotional connection and vulnerability were not consistently encouraged or rewarded. People with a dismissive-avoidant attachment strategy often prize their independence and can feel uncomfortable with close emotional connections, often…
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Dating with Anxious Attachment: A Guide to Navigating Relationship Challenges

Dating can feel like a rollercoaster—thrilling, exciting, but sometimes quite unnerving. This can be particularly true if you’re dealing with an anxious attachment strategy. Often stemming from inconsistent or unpredictable caregiving in our early years, anxious attachment can manifest in our adult relationships as an intense fear of rejection, constant need for reassurance, or preoccupation…
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The Intersection of Attachment and Self-Care: How to Improve Your Relationship with Yourself

Self-care isn’t just about bubble baths or favourite desserts—it’s a nurturing relationship with oneself. Interestingly, this relationship is often shaped by our early attachment strategies, the ways we learned to connect with others. These strategies can influence our self-perception and our self-care habits. If, for example, you developed an anxious attachment strategy in your early…
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Reframing Insecure Attachment: Actionable Strategies

If you are in your 20s and 30s, navigating life can feel like sailing the open sea. The exhilaration of discovery often goes hand in hand with the occasional storm. One crucial navigational tool you need is an understanding of your attachment strategy. Attachment, a term psychologists use to describe how we form emotional bonds,…
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Decoding Your Attachment: A Roadmap to Healthier Relationships

Attachment is a deep-seated emotional bond that affects how we interact with those around us. This connection, formed during our earliest years, significantly impacts the way we navigate our relationships as adults. Recognizing your own attachment strategy is an essential step towards fostering healthier connections. Let’s imagine you’re a Korean-Canadian young adult who grew up…
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ACT: Committed Action

It’s usually way easier to think about doing things and making all these big changes in our lives than it is to actually make those changes. Why? Because humans are creatures of habit! We love consistency and predictability, and sometimes, most of our harmful thoughts can contribute to that consistency! Specifically, the way we handle…
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ACT: Values

If you’ve been keeping up with our blog posts up until now, you would know that values are one of the most integral parts of acceptance and commitment therapy. Arguably, it could be thought of as the end goal of ACT more generally, as the other core tenets of this type of therapy are ultimately…
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ACT: Self-As-Context

In acceptance and commitment therapy, one of its core tenets is self-as-context or the noticing self. Its dictionary definition is: “that transcendent aspect of a human being that does all the mindful noticing of one’s inner and outer world”. I know, this doesn’t help at all. As a concept, self-as-context is extremely meta and can…
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ACT: Defusion

Through the lens of acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), the overarching problem isn’t with the painful thoughts and emotions that may occur in ourselves – we actually look at these thoughts with openness and curiosity! The main problem is when a person becomes so hooked to those feelings that they begin to control and limit…
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ACT: Acceptance

In previous blog posts, we’ve discussed ACT as a tool that guides us towards living the life we want to live, all the while accepting the emotions and thoughts we may be having, even if they’re negative. In this context, the aim is really to facilitate active acceptance of our experiences and feelings, which is…
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